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Five Simple Ways You Can Help Families with Special Needs Children

November 26, 2019 in Family, Warrior Princess - No Comments

We are asked all the time “How Can We Help?”

Our daughter Callie is a lower limb amputee that walks with the help of a mermaid print prosthetic running blade. She also has a chronic heart condition called Tetrology of Fallot that she has had two open heart surgeries to combat.  She is a beautiful little mosaic of scars that she shines her light through.

But with managing her multiple appointments, therapies, surgeries, prosthetic adjustments, insurance documents, medical bills, and life hurdles…..sometimes we struggle. It can be so overwhelming, scary, time consuming, financially crippling, an emotional overload, and a logistical nightmare at times.  Parenting is already an exhausting job.  Parenting a child with special needs takes that exhaustion to a whole other level.

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Here is a list of some things that people have done for us that have been so helpful to our family.  I share these in hopes that if you have someone in your life in the same situation, you can show up for them in one of these ways!

  1. Asked how you can help….and then just shown up. We have had so many people just show up for us and have been lifesavers.  Because when I’m in the thick of it—I sometimes can’t articulate what I need.  But if someone shows up, they can look at the situation and step in to help.  Whether it be showing up at my house and helping me with the mountain of laundry they see.  Or showing up at the hospital and seeing that I haven’t eaten that day, they ran to grab me food.  We had friends come over and cut our grass!  Simply having those extra set of hands have never been taken for granted.
  2. Feed us. This one is so easy.  Send gift cards for restaurants. Set up a group to make meals for when we are in the hospital or at home recovering.  Drop by with dinner.  Use one of the meal delivery services like Door Dash, Grub Hub, or even Hello Fresh.  Go pick up some basic groceries because you know it will be hard for us to go to the store with a kiddo in a wheelchair.
  3. Make a care package. Several times when we were in the hospital with Callie, our friends and family made us care packages.  They included things like soft cozy pants for Callie (because those hospital gowns are never comfortable), slippers for me because my feet are always cold, books/stickers/bubbles/toys for Callie and snacks for the family.  They were a little reminder of “home” and our normal life.  They were also a little beacon of hope during the day and something to keep Callie occupied while we spent long days in the hospital.
  4. Text or Call Us…But understand we might not answer right away. Those messages mean the world to us.  We might not be able to respond right away but knowing that we are in your thoughts uplift us during those dark hours.  There would be times when we would be having a really bad day and I would read back through the sweet messages that were sent to us.  When Callie got old enough to understand, we shared them with her as well.
  5. Come give us a breather.  This one was hard for us to get used to accepting but so important. We had a hard time leaving Callie when she was younger and even acknowledging that we needed a break. We needed them though—whether it was to reconnect with each other or to simply rest.  Some of the best things anyone ever did for us was to come watch Callie so we could have that disconnect.  Sometimes we used that time for a quick date.  Other times we simply used it to take a nap or go work out.  Either way, the little time outs were such a blessing to us.  Even now the breathers are life savers.  Taking care of Callie daily, managing the mountain of insurance paperwork, researching new therapies to advocate for her, and juggling the appointments is emotionally taxing.  Those small refresh breaks make such a difference to our mental health!

I hope some of these tips are helpful!  Not only to the people looking to help others but the special needs parents themselves.  Share this list with the people that you love to give them some insight into what you need!

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Hi everyone! Thanks so much for stopping by! My name is Jaime! Wife to my better half, James, who is my moon and all of my stars. We are parents to our little warrior princess, Callie Grace. We started this blog to share our journey as we navigate through our crazy beautiful life. Callie is a lower limb amputee and I am a Type One Diabetic. We are hoping to change the face of beauty one step at a time! We hope by sharing our story, you leave with a little bit more inspiration and hope! Thank you so much for stopping by and joining our tribe!

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Hi Y'all! I’m Jaime, a proud working mama, author, girl boss and wifey to an ultra-adorable husband. I am a huge book nerd, I drink coffee like my life depends on it, and run on dry shampoo and Amazon Prime. Leopard print is my favorite color. I am a story teller at heart and this blog is a virtual scrapbook of our crazy beautiful life. I'm a Type One Diabetic and our little warrior princess Callie is a lower limb amputee. By sharing how we’ve chosen to flourish in the garden we’ve been planted in, we hope you can take some small nuggets of hope, inspiration, and laughter. We are so grateful that you’ve found us—welcome to the fam. We embrace our perfectly imperfect lives and don’t let the doctor’s appointments, spreadsheets, speaking engagements, 10th birthday parties to plan, housework or date nights overwhelm us. Those things are just the beautiful reminders of all the blessings in our lives. Read More

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